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Faith / Re: Devotions
« on: September 03, 2024, 07:19:39 PM »
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Reframing Our Loneliness
January 12, 2024
by Meredith Houston Carr

"Where can I go from your Spirit? Where can I flee from your presence? If I go up to the heavens, you are there; if I make my bed in the depths, you are there." Psalm 139:7-8 (NIV)

“What do you have coming up this week?”

I tried to disguise the crack in my voice as I answered my mom's question as casually as possible, not wanting her to hear the ache of isolation I felt. “Oh, this and that. You know, busy mom life.”

A cross-country move had left me miles away from family and friends. Sure, life was busy in this new place but busy is a poor substitute for relationships and the security of being known. Those days, loneliness felt like my only friend, a BFF so devoted she would never leave my side.  Perhaps you can relate. The friendships you desire haven’t materialized (or perhaps they’ve fallen by the wayside). The partner you’d hoped to spend your life with hasn’t shown up yet (or maybe decided to walk away). Your home that used to buzz with children’s laughter and light is all quiet now (or you’ve dreamed of this home but haven’t been able to build it).  Despite all the blessings in your life, there’s no denying it your heart feels the sorrowful squeeze of seclusion.  When loneliness strikes, the Bible provides comfort. In my season of solitude, I especially found encouragement in today’s key verses from Psalms, beautifully penned by David:  “Where can I go from your Spirit? Where can I flee from your presence? If I go up to the heavens, you are there; if I make my bed in the depths, you are there” (Psalm 139:7-8).

In poetic form, David reminds us of the one crucial truth we can cling to for dear life when loneliness looms: We are never truly alone, no matter how void our hearts or homes feel.  God's watchful, unwavering presence wraps around us, even when others have walked away. His Spirit goes with us to the world’s farthest reaches or into the workplaces where we feel unseen. He holds us steady when grief gnaws at our souls and when the enemy whispers, You will never belong.  Like David, we can learn to reframe how we see lonely seasons not as a vacuum to fill but as an invitation into a deep and abiding fellowship with our heavenly Father. Through this lens, we can even learn to embrace lonely seasons as a unique opportunity to let Jesus fill our empty spaces. In the process, we’ll find that His presence provides an abundance no earthly relationship and no amount of numbing can match!  The next time loneliness squeezes your heart, let it be a reminder to lean into God’s unseen, unending presence.  Through prayer, tenderly turn over all your pain and tears to Him.  Then invite Jesus into your empty places, dear one and prepare to enjoy the comfort of His closeness like never before.

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Faith / Re: Devotions
« on: September 03, 2024, 07:11:33 PM »
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The Enemy Is Already a Defeated Foe
January 11, 2024
by Lysa TerKeurst

“Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.” 1 Peter 5:8 (ESV)

I’m not a fan of lions. They aren’t picky with their food choices. Whether you’re a gazelle that got separated from your herd or an uninformed human sleeping in a tent where lions roam, they’ll think you look delicious.  When my family and I went back to the continent where my two sons were born, I got to experience this terrifying reality firsthand.  The guides assured us the lions wouldn’t come. Not true.  Right when I was falling asleep, a creature brushed the length of my tent and wait for it roared! As he brushed the tent again, my imagination fired off one horrific outcome after another.  Though I never stepped outside the tent, I suffered a brutal attack of the mind. I let the lion get the best of my thoughts.  But we don’t have to go to Africa to get stalked by a lion. We see this in the way Peter warned believers against the devil in 1 Peter 5:8: “Be sober‑minded; be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.”

The enemy isn’t just looking to distract you, tempt you, or pull you slightly off course. He’s looking to devour you. But we must remember something crucial: The devil is vicious, but he’s not victorious. And, my friend, you have everything you need to defeat him.  We don’t have to live feeling powerless and deathly afraid. A closer look at 1 Peter 5:8-9 shows us how we can come out on the other side of these moments.   “Be sober‑minded; be watchful” is a reminder to be self-controlled. Words similar to these show up three separate times in Peter’s letter (1 Peter 1:13; 1 Peter 4:7; 1 Peter 5:8). The specific reason why is given in 1 Peter 4:7: “The end of all things is at hand” (ESV).

Satan knows the end is fast approaching. He is a defeated foe who has already suffered a fatal blow. But before he falls, he’ll try to make as many last kills as possible. With everything he’s got left, he’s coming after us. This is why we must be ever watchful.  While many of us don’t have lions regularly brushing by our homes, we do have daily encounters with the enemy. And just like the lion’s power over me that night stopped the minute the guards showed up, Satan is rendered powerless the moment we tap into the power of God’s Word, like we’re doing today in this devotion.  Here’s what I want you to remember: God’s promises are always a perfect match for our problems. And He is our perfect protection against the enemy.

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https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13808391/Pictured-Dog-walker-80-kicked-death-group-children-park-attack-three-girls-two-boys-aged-12-14-arrested-murder.html

Pictured: Dog walker, 80, 'kicked in neck and back by group of children in park attack' just 30 seconds from home as three girls and two boys, aged 12 to 14, are arrested for murder

By Elizabeth Haigh and Tash Mosheim

Published: 14:29, 3 September 2024 | Updated: 14:59, 3 September 2024

A dog walker who died after a group of children allegedly attacked him and 'kicked him in the neck and back' has been pictured for the first time.  Three girls and two boys aged between 12 and 14 have been arrested on suspicion of murder after Bhim Sen Kohli, 80, was 'seriously' assaulted while walking his dog in Franklin Park.  Leicestershire Police today confirmed five children had been arrested on suspicion of murder after Mr Kohli last night succumbed to his injuries.  The alleged attackers, who targeted Mr Kohli when he was just seconds away from the safety of his home, are a boy and a girl aged 14 and two girls and one boy aged 12.  They are currently in custody being questioned.  Mr Kohli was raced to hospital after the 'serious' assault at around 6.30pm. He is survived by his devastated wife and three children.  He was found fighting for his life, after he was allegedly attacked by a group of youths who took off before emergency services arrived.  The force today said they had launched a murder probe after the man died in the hours that followed, and confirmed more schoolchildren had been arrested.  They are now pleading for witnesses to come forward.  The victim's daughter yesterday said that her father had been left with neck and spine injuries after the attack, and had been scheduled to undergo surgery.   She told the Leicester Mercury: 'They pushed him, they kicked him in the neck, kicked him in the spine.  He was about 30 seconds away from getting home. He's always been very active he has three allotments. We've lived here for 40 years.'

She described rushing to the park to find her father 'lying under a tree'.  As the victim had previous contact with the police, the force has now also voluntarily referred the case to the Independent Office for Police Conduct (IOPC).  Detectives have been working with local residents and are actively seeking witnesses who were in the park on Sunday evening to come forward.  Neighbour Deep Kalia told the Mirror she had known Mr Kahli for 35 years, describing him as a 'fit man' who was regularly seen at his allotment.  She said he had two sons and a daughter, as well as two grandchildren.  Emma Matts, a detective inspector, said: 'Sadly, following the death of the victim last night, this has now become a murder investigation.  Officers are continuing to work at speed to establish the details of the attack and we have made a number of arrests as we continue to understand what has happened.  A scene preservation will remain in place at the park while our investigation progresses. Local officers are also in the area carrying out reassurance patrols and can speak to anyone in the local community who has concerns.'

Police believe the man had been wearing a black jumper and grey jogging bottoms.  Leicestershire Police said in a statement today: 'At 18.30 on Sunday 1st September 2024, an 80-year-old man was assaulted near the Franklin Park entrance, Bramble way, Braunstone Town, and later died in hospital.  It is reported the victim, who was walking his dog, is believed to have been wearing a black jumper and grey jogging bottoms and was seriously assaulted by a group of young people. They left the scene prior to emergency services arriving.  Leicestershire Police have launched a murder investigation and have arrested five people a boy and a girl aged 14 and one boy and two girls aged 12 on suspicion of murder. They are currently being interviewed by police.  Detectives are currently working to establish the full circumstances surrounding the incident and are speaking to residents in the area to gather as much information as possible. They also wish speak to anyone who was in the park or in the surrounding area.  Were you in the area of Franklin Park or Bramble Way from 1800 to 1845 on Sunday 1st September 2024? Did you see the attack itself? From the description given did you see the victim before the incident or possibly a group of young people leaving the area after?  If you have information, and if you have relevant digital photos, videos, CCTV, or Dash-cam / Doorbell-cam footage please submit via the Portal form.'

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https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13728347/John-died-railway-police-accident-parents-truth-death-threats-mysterious-letter-murder.html

When John died on a railway, police said it was an accident. Now his parents reveal truth about his death from chilling threats to a mysterious letter and ask the horrifying question: Has someone got away with murder?

By Paul Bracchi

Published: 01:56, 10 August 2024 | Updated: 01:56, 10 August 2024

No one would ever know John Merrick is buried in Streetly Cemetery in the West Midlands.  His grave, in stark contrast to all the others, doesn't have a headstone. The plot is an empty patch of grass with nothing to indicate this is his final resting place.  It would be easy, in the circumstances, to assume he died unloved and friendless.  He didn't.  More than 700 people turned out for his funeral. One firm, which used the services of his thriving tyre business, closed so staff could attend the service.  'Our John' was spelt out in a giant floral tribute and placed at his graveside.  But no headstone.  'Until we get justice for our son it will remain unmarked,' said John's father Paul Merrick, a retired motor trade entrepreneur. 'I believe John was murdered. I want the inscription to say that. I want everyone who visits his grave to know what happened.'

More than a decade on, John Merrick's death is still mired in controversy.

Behind his tragic loss is a story involving death threats, a disturbing anonymous letter, a car chase, a feared family and the jailed son of a former deputy crime commissioner now serving time for drug smuggling which can be told for the first time today.  At the centre of it all, a haunting question: has someone got away with John Merrick's murder?

Two recent developments, which we'll come to, have only added to the suspicion that the truth about what happened to John has not fully emerged.  John, 32, was found lying next to railway tracks in the isolated Staffordshire countryside on the outskirts of Birmingham after crashing his car into the wall of a bridge, on the night of Friday, September 6, 2013.  He was more than one-and-a-half times over the drink-drive limit and had jumped 25ft onto the railway track below in an attempt to flee the scene, an inquest heard.  Why, his family and their lawyer asked, would he have jumped when he wasn't even being pursued by the police?

There is one other thing to point out here.  John is supposed to have 'vaulted' (the word used by two witnesses) over the side of the bridge by swinging his legs like a gymnast traversing a pommel horse. Such a scenario would have represented a considerable feat because the brick wall is 3.5ft high and 2ft wide and, at around 5ft 8in and more than 15st, John was significantly overweight.  Nevertheless, despite inconsistencies in the accounts of witnesses, criticisms of the initial investigation, and an independent report by a leading forensic pathologist questioning some of the findings of the original post-mortem examination, the coroner's verdict was accidental death.  A second independent report by another pathologist recommended the exhumation of John's body. The request was turned down by the coroner.  Mr Merrick and his wife Julie, both in their 70s, have fought tirelessly for the justice they believe John deserves.  It would be easy to dismiss their concerns given that both the British Transport Police (BTP) and Staffordshire Police say they found no evidence of 'third-party' involvement. But, aside from any shortcomings or otherwise in the investigation, a sinister thread runs through the entire story of John Merrick which is hard to ignore.  It is epitomised by a sinister threat Mr Merrick received a few months after John's death, from two unrelated men who showed up at his local pub, the Hardwick Arms in Streetly, near Tamworth. They approached one of his friends with a message to pass onto him: 'Tell Paul Merrick,' they said, 'that if he carries on with investigating the case he will end up where his son is.'

A few years later a troubling letter arrived. The couple are making it public for the first time in a bid to get the investigation into John's death reopened.  The letter begins: 'It is with a heavy heart that I write this to you but knowing your pain and need for the truth of the circumstances relating to the loss of John.  John had some very damning information on ******* (the name of a member of a notorious family) which would have resulted in a long custodial sentence which left ******* with no choice but to have John silenced. John knew too much of *******'s activities and unfortunately paid the price.  This may or may not be a surprise to you but I'm sure that you know this to be true.  John should at the very least have justice on this and you should see that he does.'

The contents of the typed note, which arrived by post at their home in Sutton Coldfield, did not come as a surprise to the Merricks, who had heard similar rumours.  The Merricks now live in a different part of the country. You would be hard-pressed to find a more quietly courageous and resilient couple but one of the reasons they moved following Mr Merrick's retirement a few years ago was because they no longer felt at ease in their native West Midlands.  The person referred to in the anonymous letter cannot be named for legal reasons. I have spoken to several people who've found themselves on the wrong side of this family, some of whom ended up needing hospital treatment after being beaten up, but who claim witnesses were reluctant to come forward or speak to police on their behalf.  'They are a tough family,' one told me. 'They are big fish in a small pond. People in their patch are scared of them.'

Did he believe the allegation contained in the anonymous letter was credible?

'Yes,' he replied.

John Merrick had been close to one member of this family likely the reason he is alleged to have 'known too much', to quote the letter but his parents say he was not part of any criminal activity.  John was not perfect and drank too much on occasions, but the number of people at his funeral is testament to his popularity.  'He was like everyone's son, everyone's brother,' said Mrs Merrick. 'He was kind, generous and helpful and everyone loved him. So many people have been affected by his death.'

The letter and the death threat were just part of a sinister chain of events that would have left any family, not just the Merricks, questioning the outcome of the police investigation and inquest.  Four days before his death, John turned up 'out of the blue', late at night, at the home of family friends on the outskirts of Tamworth.

'He said unsavoury characters were chasing him and had nearly rammed him off the road,' recalled retired accountant Dave Goulding, whose son had been John's best friend during school and their teenage years.

'He had driven into a field, hiding behind a hedge, to try to escape them. He then abandoned his car and fled on foot to our house half a mile away.  He was shaken up but didn't want to say who was chasing him, or why, and he didn't want to call the police.  The next day I drove him to pick up his car. It was scattered inside with takeaway food which had been hurled around in the chase.'

That happened on September 2, 2013. Four days later John Merrick was dead.  The similarity between the events of September 2 and September 6 are chilling: on both occasions John had abandoned his car. On both occasions he'd bought a Chinese takeaway.  'John's death raises so many questions and some remain unanswered,' said Mr Goulding. 'I do not believe he took his own life or died accidentally.'

John's death, he said, was certainly caused by the actions of those said to have been chasing him. Paul and Julie Merrick have spent the past decade compiling a dossier on John's death to try to get the case reopened.  'We haven't slept properly for more than ten years,' said Mr Merrick. 'A door has been shut in our face at every turn.'

Until last year, it seemed, when they were contacted by the West Midlands Regional Organised Crime Unit (ROCU).  A meeting was set up between the Merricks, their lawyer Sefton Kwasnik and Det Chief Supt Jenny Skyrme and another detective from ROCU.  The catalyst for the meeting was John Arnold, son of Sue Arnold, former Deputy Police and Crime Commissioner in Staffordshire, who was about to be jailed for 23 years for his part in a plot to smuggle £118 million worth of cocaine into the UK.  To begin with, some background. Back in 2013 Arnold, who attended the £45,000-a-year Repton School, was known to one of the family referred to in the anonymous letter. Both of them also knew John Merrick.  On the morning following John's death, Arnold turned up at the scene. He claimed John's father, who was also there, had asked him to go down the embankment to the railway tracks to find his son's wallet. Mr Merrick flatly denies this.  Why was John Arnold there, if not looking for the wallet?

A week later, when a detective spoke to Arnold to obtain a statement from him in the presence of his mother, he was unwilling to give the statement because, the detective said, 'he was concerned about the repercussions he might be subject to'.

His 'unwillingness' to help is disclosed in the detective's own testimony which was part of the inquest proceedings.  Why, is the obvious question.  Clearly, the renewed interest in John Merrick's death by the Regional Organised Crime Unit last year was prompted by John Arnold's conviction for drug smuggling.  Det Chief Supt Skyrme and her colleague spent five hours speaking to the Merricks and their solicitor Mr Kwasnik at a hotel in June 2023.  She later sent them a summary of what she saw as 'the main issues that needed to be addressed' in the case. The list included the family named in the letter and John Arnold.  She hoped, she said, to 'be able to share' her full report with them in due course.  It was not to be.  In a recent email, Det Chief Supt Skyrme informed the Merricks: 'I have liaised with both the British Transport Police & Staffordshire Police who have requested that the report is not shared.'

Neither BTP nor Staffordshire Police were prepared to explain the reason for their decision.  John Arnold is now in prison but his mother, who was Deputy Crime Commissioner between 2012 and 2021, insisted he had cooperated fully with the police.  'He gave the police everything he knew,' she said. 'I was there when he was interviewed. He didn't hold back. He gave them all the details he had, his exact movements.' Asked why he wasn't prepared to make an official statement, she said: 'Because he didn't want to,' adding: 'We have nothing to hide. Nothing whatsoever. We are all absolutely devastated by John's death. My heart bleeds for his family.'

The night John died has been replayed over and over again by his parents.  John had met a friend for a drink after work and he then visited another pub before picking up a Chinese takeaway nearby and apparently heading home.  John used the road near Tamworth twice a day to get to and from his business in Birmingham.  His abandoned Fiesta was spotted on the bridge at Willow Bottom Lane, a few miles from Tamworth, sometime before 11pm. The bridge has a number 58 which is clearly displayed on a plaque on the wall, half-way across. It was from this point two witnesses say they saw a figure 'vault' over the side.  If John Merrick did jump off, it couldn't have been from this spot, according to a new report by Mike Brown, one of the country's foremost specialists in biomechanics, the science which examines the 'internal and external forces' acting on the human body.  If he had, claims Mr Brown who was commissioned by the Merricks, and who has worked extensively on suspicious deaths with police forces all over the country he would have 'landed directly below'. But John was actually found 18ft further to the left.  The report also states that witnesses would have had a 'limited line of sight' and 'their field of view would be limited by the vehicle [the Fiesta] and its lights projecting towards them.'  Any inconsistencies in witnesses' accounts, however, were dismissed by the coroner and were likely to be 'innocent errors', he said, caused by confusion on a dark, foggy night where the incident unfolded in the space of just a few seconds.  One of them spoke to the Mail: 'When we gave statements to the police they didn't discuss what may have happened or why, and I can't speculate if it was a suspicious death. I don't have a clue.'

Two other young men — 'two blokes together' to use the witness's words — also arrived at the scene on the night in question, she said.
Police have never revealed who they were and, unlike the witness we spoke to, and her boyfriend, they were not called to give evidence at the inquest.  What we do know is the incident log, obtained under a Freedom of Information request, shows that at 11.40pm John Merrick's death was being treated as a 'crime scene' after being considered 'suspicious' by the British Transport Police (BTP) but declared 'non-suspicious' just after midnight 31 minutes later.  No crime scene photographs were taken during that period which is highly irregular and the reason why foul play was initially suspected by the BTP has never been explained.  'I have never seen so many failings of basic investigation work on the night and since,' said the family's solicitor Sefton Kwasnik.

They were compounded by the conflicting medical evidence.  Most of John's injuries were sustained in the fall, the original post-mortem found, but he also 'suffered a glancing blow' from a train which severed his shoulder.  There was no evidence of this, however, when the seven trains which could have been responsible for the strike were examined and the drivers questioned.  The results of the post-mortem examination were challenged by two independent medical reports.  The first, commissioned by the Merricks, was produced at the inquest. The second, by Dr Nathaniel Cary, a Home Office registered consultant pathologist for more than 20 years, was produced on the instructions of the BTP in 2017.  Again, we do not know what persuaded the BTP to do this four years after John's death but both reports found there were a lack of injuries, such as leg breaks, consistent with a fall.  Dr Cary also pointed out: 'The pathological findings alone do not rule out the possibility that the deceased was assaulted by some other means, including to a state of unconsciousness and that he was placed on the track to obscure the occurrence of such an assault,' adding: 'Abrasions on his chest and flank' were consistent with him 'being dragged through the undergrowth'.

He recommended the exhumation of John's body. The request was rejected by Staffordshire South senior Coroner Andrew Haigh, who retired in 2021.  Both the British Transport Police and Staffordshire Police said there had been a number of reviews into the death of John Merrick. 'Their thoughts,' they said, 'remain with the family.'

Will a headstone ever be placed on John Merrick's grave?

'John was our life,' said Mr Merrick. 'We will never give up.'

Additional reporting: Tracey Kandohla and Tim Stewart

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Jay Slater's family turn out for funeral as pals wear blue in tribute to 'forever 19' beloved son who died in Tenerife

By Lettice Bromovsky and Stewart Whittingham

Published: 10:43, 10 August 2024 | Updated: 13:13, 10 August 2024

Hundreds of mourners dressed in blue gathered amid pouring rain this morning to bid a final farewell to teenage bricklayer Jay Slater.  The 19-year-old was the subject of a huge international manhunt when he vanished in Tenerife on June 17 after attending a music festival with his mates.  His body was tragically found a month later down a rocky ravine, having seemingly fallen to his death as he tried to walk back to his holiday accommodation.  Mother Debbie Duncan, 55, and father Warren Slater, 58, both wiped away tears as they led a procession of mourners through the drizzle at Accrington Crematorium Chapel today.  Perhaps fittingly for Jay, a known raver, his coffin was carried outside to the sound of a drum-and-bass track, while friends said in their eulogies: 'Keep partying up there'. 

His body was brought to the chapel by a horse-drawn carriage before his blue coffin, with 'JAY' embossed on the side, was carried in to the sounds of Lana del Ray 'Forever Young'.  Videos of the young teenager playing football, which he started from the age of six, and of him dancing at festivals brought laughter to those inside the chapel.  In an eulogy, his friend James Curry said he was 'more than a mate' and 'more like a brother'.  Mr Curry, who was due to start a business with Jay, added: 'Jay was one of a kind. He lit up any room with that goofy smile of his.'

His close friend said he 'cherished' his time with him as poems were also read out during the service.  His coffin was carried outside and buried separately in the cemetery.  The farewell was a sea of blue, as this was Jay's favourite colour. People were seen carrying blue flowers, wearing blue wristbands and ribbons, even blue smoke bombs were let off outside.  Since his death tributes have poured in for the 19-year-old, yesterday his best friend has posted another heart wrenching tribute to the teenager.  Lucy Mae Law shared a short video to her Instagram story of the carefree 19-year-old bopping away at pool rave, captioned 'always dancing'.  Jay's loved ones have also asked that instead of flowers, people could donate to LBT Global, an overseas crisis support charity which helped his family through their heartache.  A post-mortem examination found the 19-year-old, from Oswaldtwistle, Lancashire, who died on June 17, found he died of traumatic head injuries, consistent with a fall from height.  His death would have been instantaneous.  Floral tributes will come from the family but 'if anyone would like to bring a single rose to place with Jay, they are more than welcome', his relatives said in a statement issued through LBT Global.  Mr Slater, an apprentice bricklayer, was also remembered in a tribute from his family which outlined the major events and passions of his life.  They stated: 'A loving son of Debbie and Warren, a cherished brother of Zak and brother-in-law of Jessica, a treasured grandson of Dawn, June and the late Dougie, a much-loved nephew of Glen and Katie, a dear cousin of Maddie and Tillie and a loyal friend to many. Jay will be very sadly missed by all those who knew him.'

Before they left Tenerife his mother Debbie Turner attached with a blue peg to a bouquet close to where he died and said: 'To my beautiful boy. I'm so sorry we never found you. I miss you so much. You will be forever young and forever missed. Love you so much, Mum'.

Another moving message pegged to a post by Jay's father Walter Slater read: 'To my Boy, Love Dad, Always, XXXX'.

While a third handwritten message from Jay's brother Zak written in faltering handwriting was attached to a single white rose.  It read: 'Love you little bro. Never in a million years did I think I'd be doing this. I'll look after mum and dad. Hope you're partying up there with granddad. Hope to see you again some day. Rest easy bro, I love you, Zak XX'.

Jay's family endured conspiracy theories and vitriolic comments online by trolls during the search for the teenager including hoax hostage videos.  They were sent two sick videos of people, meant to be Jay, having beaten up and one clip was labelled: ''We have your son'. 

The funeral was even targeted by online scammers who wrongly claimed people could pay to watch it streaming live.  A drone was heard flying over his funeral.  The family said: 'After Jay left Rhyddings High School he went on to become an apprentice bricklayer with the PH Build group, a job he greatly enjoyed.  At the young age of five Jay started playing football for Huncoat United FC until the age of 17 and also did a few seasons with the Sunday team at St Joesph's too.  He also loved spending time chilling out with his friends.  Jay's love of music and dance started at a very young age. He loved attending music festivals and events across the country and also loved to socialise and meet new people.'

Mr Slater attended the NRG music festival with two friends before his disappearance, and his last known location was the Rural de Teno Park in the north of the Canary Island, which was about an 11-hour walk from his accommodation.  He had travelled to an Airbnb in Masca after a night out but the two men said to have rented the property were later ruled 'not relevant' to the case.  The Spanish Civil Guard said Mr Slater could have fallen in the steep and inaccessible area where he was discovered.

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Faith / Re: Devotions
« on: August 10, 2024, 01:21:41 PM »
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How Can I Be Grateful When I Don’t Feel Grateful?
November 30, 2023
by Lysa TerKeurst

“Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” Matthew 6:34 (NIV)

Sometimes being grateful means choosing to see what is instead of being blinded by what isn’t.  It’s a tough choice in some moments. Brutal, actually. But it’s worth fighting through.  The last couple of years have been no walk in the park for me. I still have days where what’s missing in my life feels like a huge, gaping hole. Everywhere I look, it feels like the hole is in the center of my vision.  But then I’m faced with a choice. I can stare deep into the hole, or I can direct my gaze away from that hole and refocus on something else, like rolling out cookie dough with my granddaughters. I can pause to admire their precious faces and this priceless moment right in front of me. When I do this, I’m once again reminded that there is so much more to this one incredible life than the sum total of our heartbreak.  And the same is true for you, friend.  No matter what we’ve been going through lately, we can thank God for the gift of this day. Because here’s what I’m learning: God gives us today grace.  Look at the words of Matthew 6:34 with me: “Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”

In my Bible, the heading above Matthew 6:25-34 also says, “Do Not Worry.”

It’s no coincidence to me that this verse, the last verse of this entire section, warns us against looking to tomorrow. It’s almost like the writer is communicating, This is the last thing I want you to remember. Take hold of these words.  As I’ve personally reflected on these verses, I’ve realized that where I sometimes get in trouble with this whole idea of gratitude is when I try to carry today’s stress with tomorrow’s worry and the fear of six months from now all with today’s grace. That’s when it all feels like too much to bear.  It’s not that we don’t want to plan for the future and be discerning about how to handle what’s next responsibly. That’s wise and good. It’s just that we don’t want to become so stressed, fearful and full of anxiety about tomorrow that we miss the grace and goodness of this beautiful day.  You might say, “Lysa, how do I know God will give me grace for tomorrow?” I’m so glad you asked.

 Look at 1 Peter 5:10-11: “And the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast. To him be the power for ever and ever. Amen” (NIV).

See, friend?

He is “the God of all grace.” Not some of it. All of it. So knowing this, we can receive both the grace and the gifts of today without missing one minute of its unexpected treasure. We can celebrate every bit of joy that is waiting to be found. We can choose to believe that gratitude isn’t something we have access to only when our lives are perfect. No, choosing gratitude right in the middle of what’s hard isn’t denial. It is choosing to do only what can be done today.  And since today is what we’ve been given, we can enjoy the mess. Receive the blessing. Dance it out at least one time. Fill in the gaps with prayer. And make it a goal to go to bed with smiles on our faces.  And then tomorrow, we can choose it all over again.  Dear Lord, You made me. You know me. I need Your help

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Such a sad death

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I can't imagine having a relative like that and wouldn't want to either.

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He was one of my favourite actors.

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Faith / Re: Devotions
« on: June 06, 2024, 03:34:52 PM »
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Faithful in the Everyday
August 8, 2023
by Anne Graham Lotz and Rachel-Ruth Lotz Wright

“... 'Well done, good and faithful servant! You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things. Come and share your master’s happiness!'” Matthew 25:21 (NIV)

My (Rachel-Ruth’s) grandmother hung over her kitchen sink a sign that said Divine Service Will Be Conducted Here Three Times Daily. It was a continual reminder that even mundane, everyday chores should be done as unto the Lord.  The Bible confirms that one day, cooking, traveling, transportation and other day-to-day activities will have inscribed on them “HOLY TO THE LORD” (Zechariah 14:20-21, NIV).

When I’m in the middle of cooking another dinner or driving to one more practice or answering a never-ending stream of emails, I need to take a deep breath and remember that everything I do should be done as unto God. For His glory.  Much of the Christian’s walk consists of being faithful in the everyday. As we wait for Jesus’ return, we must continue to faithfully live out our lives for Jesus in all things, including life’s not-so-glamorous tasks. In fact, we can have an incredible encounter with God in the middle of those menial tasks. We see this throughout Scripture:

*  Moses encountered God when he was on the far side of the desert, tending his father-in-law’s sheep. God spoke to Moses through a burning bush and called him to return to Egypt, where God would use him to set the Israelites free from slavery (Exodus 3).
*  The woman at the well encountered Jesus while filling her jar with water. Jesus, the Living Water, completely changed her life in one conversation (John 4)!
*  Mary and Martha opened their home, served others a meal, and had a front-row seat to Jesus’ ministry (Luke 10:38-42).

Each of these people was faithfully carrying out their day-to-day tasks when they encountered God in a personal, life-changing way.  Could that be you?

Are you, like them, faithfully working day in and day out?

Whether you’re a janitor scrubbing toilets, a mom in the carpool line, a dad helping his son with homework, an administrative assistant in an urban high-rise, a caregiver for a sick relative, a CEO in a morning meeting, a college student, or a cashier whatever work the Lord has you doing are you faithful?

God sees you go the extra mile to help someone at the office. He sees you work hard when others around you are cutting corners and leaving early. He sees you stay up late to do the dishes, start a load of laundry, and pack your kids’ lunches. He sees you wake up early to pray and study the Bible before you leave for a busy day at work. God sees you and your faithfulness, even when you think no one sees or cares!  When Jesus returns, wouldn’t it be wonderful to hear Him exclaim, “Well done, good and faithful servant! You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things. Come and share your master’s happiness!” (Matthew 25:21)?

What task has God assigned to you that you feel isn’t very significant?

Whatever it is, God is watching. Open your eyes and heart to a fresh encounter with Him every day.

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Fun, Games And Silliness / Golf
« on: June 06, 2024, 03:18:09 PM »
A foursome of senior golfers hit the course with waning enthusiasm for the sport.  "These hills are getting steeper as the years go by," one complained.

"These fairways seem to be getting longer too," wheezed a second.

"And somehow, the sand traps seem to be bigger than I remember 'em too," said the third.

Hearing just about enough from his buddies, the oldest and the wisest of the foursome at 87-years-old piped up and said, "Oh my friends, just be thankful we're still on THIS side of the grass!"

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It's been quite emotional watching broadcasts.

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These articles always make me sad and whilst I know certain breeds can be dangerous not all are and any any breed can be vicious.  Friends of mine had three dogs including a doberman who'd suffered brain damage due to a car accident.  When I spent time with them he would sit curled up with but nobody else was allowed to sit with me.  I leaned to get used to that and if I went out for a walk in the evening they insisted he went with me as they knew he would be protective.

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Faith / Re: Devotions
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Reframing Our Loneliness
January 12, 2024
by Meredith Houston Carr

"Where can I go from your Spirit? Where can I flee from your presence? If I go up to the heavens, you are there; if I make my bed in the depths, you are there." Psalm 139:7-8 (NIV)

“What do you have coming up this week?”

I tried to disguise the crack in my voice as I answered my mom's question as casually as possible, not wanting her to hear the ache of isolation I felt. “Oh, this and that. You know, busy mom life.”

A cross-country move had left me miles away from family and friends. Sure, life was busy in this new place but busy is a poor substitute for relationships and the security of being known. Those days, loneliness felt like my only friend, a BFF so devoted she would never leave my side.  Perhaps you can relate. The friendships you desire haven’t materialized (or perhaps they’ve fallen by the wayside). The partner you’d hoped to spend your life with hasn’t shown up yet (or maybe decided to walk away). Your home that used to buzz with children’s laughter and light is all quiet now (or you’ve dreamed of this home but haven’t been able to build it).  Despite all the blessings in your life, there’s no denying it your heart feels the sorrowful squeeze of seclusion.  When loneliness strikes, the Bible provides comfort. In my season of solitude, I especially found encouragement in today’s key verses from Psalms, beautifully penned by David:  “Where can I go from your Spirit? Where can I flee from your presence? If I go up to the heavens, you are there; if I make my bed in the depths, you are there” (Psalm 139:7-8).

In poetic form, David reminds us of the one crucial truth we can cling to for dear life when loneliness looms: We are never truly alone, no matter how void our hearts or homes feel.  God's watchful, unwavering presence wraps around us, even when others have walked away. His Spirit goes with us to the world’s farthest reaches or into the workplaces where we feel unseen. He holds us steady when grief gnaws at our souls and when the enemy whispers, You will never belong.  Like David, we can learn to reframe how we see lonely seasons not as a vacuum to fill but as an invitation into a deep and abiding fellowship with our heavenly Father. Through this lens, we can even learn to embrace lonely seasons as a unique opportunity to let Jesus fill our empty spaces. In the process, we’ll find that His presence provides an abundance no earthly relationship and no amount of numbing can match!  The next time loneliness squeezes your heart, let it be a reminder to lean into God’s unseen, unending presence.  Through prayer, tenderly turn over all your pain and tears to Him.  Then invite Jesus into your empty places, dear one and prepare to enjoy the comfort of His closeness like never before.

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