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https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13283663/Mother-dead-ex-husband-murder-suicide.html

Mother-of-six, 49, is found dead along with her ex-husband, 52, in 'murder-suicide' in quiet residential street

By Sam Lawley

Published: 10:52, 8 April 2024 | Updated: 11:45, 8 April 2024

A mother-of-six has been found dead along with her ex-husband in a suspected 'murder-suicide' in a quiet residential street.  Vicala Gheorghe, 49, is thought to have been fatally stabbed by Marian Gheorghe, 52, before he took his own life.  Ms Gheorghe was found seriously injured at her home in Caludon Road, Coventry, at around 5.30am last Friday.  She was rushed to hospital but died a short time later while Mr Gheorghe was pronounced dead at the scene.  A post mortem will be carried out next week to establish the causes of death.  A West Midlands Police spokesperson said: 'The pair were former partners and forensic post mortems will take place next week to establish the causes of death.  'We're continuing our enquiries into exactly what happened but at this stage we strongly believe Marian injured Vicala and then himself.  We're offering support to family members during this distressing time.  We are not looking for anyone else in connection with this incident at this stage.'

Six rescue crews, including three ambulances, rushed to the property after receiving an emergency call last Friday morning.  A West Midlands Ambulance Service spokesperson said: 'We were called to reports of a stabbing on Caludon Road in Coventry at 5.30am.  Three ambulances, two paramedic officers and the Air Ambulance Critical Care Car were sent to the scene where, on arrival, crews found two patients: a man and a woman.  'The man, who was in a critical condition, was receiving basic life support from police colleagues before ambulance staff took over and immediately began administering advanced life support.  Sadly, he could not be saved and was confirmed dead at the scene.  The female patient, who had suffered serious injuries, received advanced trauma care from medics before being conveyed on blue lights to University Hospital Coventry and Warwickshire.  'However, shortly after arrival at hospital, sadly it became clear she could not be saved and was confirmed deceased.'

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Fun, Games And Silliness / Toast
« on: April 08, 2024, 12:12:48 PM »
An explorer in the deepest Amazon suddenly finds himself surrounded by a bloodthirsty group of natives. Upon surveying his situation, he says quietly to himself, "I'm toast."

A ray of light breaks forth from the sky and a voice booms out: "No, you are NOT toast. Pick up that stone in front of you and bash the head of the chief."

So the explorer picks up the stone and proceeds to bash in the head of the chief. He is breathing heavily while standing above the sprawled out-chief.  Surrounding him are the 100 native warriors with a look of shock on their faces.  The voice booms out again: "Okay NOW you're toast!"

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Fun, Games And Silliness / Efficiancy
« on: April 08, 2024, 12:10:50 PM »
An efficiency expert concluded his lecture with a note of caution. "You don't want to try these techniques at home."

"Why not?" asked somebody from the audience.

"I watched my wife's routine at breakfast for years," the expert explained.

"She made lots of trips between the refrigerator, stove, table and cabinets, often carrying a single item at a time. One day I told her, 'Hon, why don't you try carrying several things at once?'"

"Did it save time?" the guy in the audience asked.

"Actually, yes," replied the expert. "It used to take her 20 minutes to make breakfast. Now I do it in seven."

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https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13270797/Morecambe-Bay-cocklepickers-human-skull-bones-beach-Chinese-workers-drowned.html

Has the last mystery of the Morecambe Bay cocklepickers finally been solved? Family renting holiday home find human skull and bones on beach two decades after 23 Chinese workers drowned there with one body never found

    Lancashire Police say they are 'keeping an open mind' over the remains
    The only victim whose body remains unaccounted for is of Dong Xin Wu

By Oliver Price

Published: 10:34, 5 April 2024 | Updated: 11:02, 5 April 2024

A family renting a holiday home by the sea found a human skull and bones on a beach and may have solved the last mystery of the Morecambe Bay cockling disaster, two decades after 23 Chinese workers drowned there.  Mother-of-two Jenny, 50, her husband Mick, 52, and their 10-year-old twins were walking along Cove Road Beach in Silverdale, north of the bay, when they saw a rocky outcrop and decided to go fossil hunting on Easter Sunday.  Lancashire Police said officers were 'keeping an open mind' when asked if they could rule out a link to the deaths of 23 Chinese men and women, aged 18 to 45, who, on February 5, 2004, drowned as they collected cockles against a rising tide.  The tragedy began as panicked cocklepicker Guo Binglong shouted 'sinking water, sinking water,' in a 999 call until the phone went dead.

He was later found dead in a huge search and rescue operation.  The untrained and inexperienced cocklepickers were all illegal immigrants and were working for a criminal gang. Gangmaster Lin Liang Ren was found guilty of their manslaughter in March 2006 and handed a 14-year sentence before being deported to China in September 2012. His girlfriend, Zhao Xiao Qing and his cousin, Lin Mu Yong, were also convicted of immigration offences.  The only victim whose body remains unaccounted for is of Dong Xin Wu, aged 39 when he died, who worked a cobbler in China and had come to the UK to send money to his family.  A human skull found near Silverdale Point the same coastline as where the skull was found this weekend was proved by DNA tests in October 2010 to be the remains of missing victim Liu Qin Ying, a mother whose husband Yu Hua Xu also died in the tragedy, leaving their son an orphan.  The man who sent them out onto the sands in February 2004 gangmaster Lin Liang Ren was later given a 14-year prison sentence for manslaughter. He was described in court as 'callous' and motivated by money.  Jenny and Mick's twin son and daughter, who are both 'really interested in fossils and dinosaurs', saw and picked up several bones, including a hip, a large vertebra and a limb, initially thinking they were ancient animal remains.  'My son looked down and saw the skull in between rocks,' Jenny, from Lancashire, told MailOnline. He told his mother: 'That doesn't look like and animal or a rock.'

'When I first realised it was a human skull, a cold shiver went down my spine,' Jenny's husband Mick said. Jenny added: 'It was not until we found the skull that the penny dropped that these were human remains.  It was surreal my husband was a bit taken aback. I've got a criminology degree so I find that stuff really interesting. I thought I might have found something that needs to be investigated, even the children found it interesting.  It's not like finding a body, if we'd found a head it would have been more scary.'

As the tide was coming back out at just before 1pm, Jenny decided the best thing to do was to pick up the skull and some other bones and take them ashore and report the findings to the police. They left some bones as her son had dropped them before they realise their true origin.  Jenny said: 'We picked the skull up and the other few bones we had a vertebra and a rib and we brought them back to where we were staying. I reported it online to the police.'

She said she thought the remains had been there for a long time and that the skill was 'very clearly' human as 'you can see inside where the brain has been touching the bone', which she described as 'fascinating'.

After reporting it, she got a call from Lancashire Police 'within minutes' and they had already sent a detective to the beach to talk with her by around 4pm.  'The officers were taken aback,' Jenny said. 'It was surreal. It suddenly felt like we were in a Channel 4 series.  They treated as human remains and put the bones in the correct bags and took it to  the coroners' office.'

She said that officers had 'mentioned outstanding missing persons from the cocklepicking disaster', adding that 'cocklepickers was my first thought'.

While she says you normally 'shouldn't be touching stuff like that', she was glad she took the bones ashore as the tide had gone back out by the time the police had arrived. 'If they [the police] identify the bones, I hope it can give someone piece of mind,' she said.

Lancashire Police did not rule out a connection to the Morecambe Bay cockling disaster when asked by MailOnline, but said: 'Although we are keeping an open mind, there is nothing to link the bones to the Morecambe Bay cockling disaster at this stage.'

The force had earlier said: 'At 4.10pm on 31st March we were called to Cove Road Beach in Silverdale to reports bones had been found in the water.  Our initial enquiries have confirmed that some of the remains are human.  Although we are keeping an open mind as to the origin of the remains, we believe they have been in the sea for a prolonged period.  Our enquiries are expected to be ongoing for some time and we continue to liaise with HM Coroner.  Anyone with information which could assist our investigation is asked to call 101. Quote log 745 of 31st March 2024.'

Morecambe Bay cockling disaster: When 23 were killed by greed of illegal trade

The Morecambe Bay cockling disaster happened on the evening of February 5, 2004, when 23 undocumented Chinese migrants drowned by an incoming tide at Morecambe Bay while harvesting cockles off the Lancashire coast.  All of the victims, men and women aged 18 to 45, were illegal immigrants and were working for a criminal gang, often to send money to their families in China.  On the evening of the tragedy, the workers became trapped by rising tides on Warton Sands in Morecambe Bay.  The tragedy began as panicked cocklepicker Guo Binglong shouted 'sinking water, sinking water,' in a 999 call at around 9.30pm until the phone went dead. He was later found dead in a huge search and rescue operation.  The workers had been using fake cocklepicking licences which had been forged by Chinese gangmaster Lin Liang Ren, then 29, and his then 21-year-old girlfriend Zhao Xiao Qing, the BBC reported at the time.  Lin Liang Ren was found guilty of the manslaughter of 21 cocklers in March 2006 and handed a 14-year sentence before being deported to China in September 2012. His girlfriend and cousin, Lin Mu Yong, were also convicted of immigration offences.  Two of the 23 bodies were not recovered in the initial search operation.  But a human skull found near Silverdale Point the same coastline as where the skull was found this weekend was proved by DNA tests in October 2010 to be the remains of missing victim Liu Qin Ying, a mother whose husband Yu Hua Xu also died in the tragedy, leaving their son an orphan.  The only victim whose body remains unaccounted for is of Dong Xin Wu, aged 39 when he died, who worked a cobbler in China and had come to the UK to send money to his family.  After the trial, Det Supt Mick Gradwell, of Lancashire Police, branded Lin Liang Ren as 'callous and despicable', even saying that he had tried to blame some of the victims.  He said: 'Listening to some of the phone calls people were making, you can hear the harrowing noises of people as they are trying to save themselves.  It was a particularly horrible and tragic night - a very frightening and horrible way to die.'

'The first thing he did was look after himself. There was a cockler who came out of the sea, having saved himself from drowning, freezing cold and Ling Lang Ren told him to get out of the van while he looked after his own welfare.'

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https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-12408611/EXCLUSIVE-Family-little-girl-five-cheek-ripped-Pocket-Bully-outside-Nisa-store-calling-dog-police-confirm-remains-kennels.html

EXCLUSIVE Family of little girl, five, whose cheek was 'ripped off' by Pocket Bully outside a Nisa store are calling for the dog to be put down as police confirm it remains in kennels

    WARNING: GRAPHIC CONTENT
    Farrah-Leigh Nichol, five, was savaged by the dog after she petted it on Saturday
    Her family has called for muzzles to be made mandatory for dogs outside

By Kevin Donald and Jon Brady

Published: 12:38, 15 August 2023 | Updated: 12:39, 15 August 2023

The family of a little girl whose cheek was ripped off by a Pocket Bully dog are demanding to know why the animal has not been destroyed.  Farrah-Leigh Nichol, five, faced further surgery this morning and her devastated parents have been told the outcome was not as successful as her consultant had hoped.  As the youngster faces a gruelling schedule of operations stretching ahead of her, police have revealed the dog that savaged her outside a Nisa store on Saturday evening has not been destroyed.  The male dog a smaller variant of the American Bully is being held in police kennels until its fate can be decided by further investigations.  Friends and family of Farrah-Leigh had assumed the dog would be put to sleep after causing such devastating injuries.  But a Cleveland Police spokesman said: 'The dog has not been destroyed and remains in the kennels as we have seized it.'

Farrah-Leigh's mum Danielle Kemp, 32, told MailOnline: 'It needs destroying. That dog needs killing as soon as possible and the owner needs to be prosecuted.  Justice needs to be served for my poor baby girl who is suffering the trauma of having to go into surgery.'

Danielle and partner Alex Nicol, 30, have been keeping a bedside vigil as their daughter undergoes skin grafts, the latest of which happened only this morning.  Danielle said: 'She's been down to surgery to have them fill the wound, but it's not as clean as they were hoping, so they've only managed to clean it again.  So she's having to have more surgery than they thought. She's going to have to go through even more.'

Farrah-Leigh was attacked on Saturday evening outside the Nisa store in Norton Road, Stockton-on-Tees, Co Durham, close to the family home.  She asked to pat the brown and white Pocket Bully a cross between a Pit Bull and Patterdale Terrier.  Without warning the dog lunged and ripped open her face, leaving her cheek torn wide open.  Her father, kicked the dog away and scooped his daughter up and ran home.  Danielle said: 'What I saw and the screams I heard will haunt me, she really didn't deserve this.  I was cooking tea when Alex came running in with Farrah-Leigh.  Our heads are all over the place at the moment. My little girl has already had one operation and she has another two to come.  She has one tomorrow morning and then another in two weeks, she's been very brave.  The support we have had from local people has been overwhelming, we can't thank them enough.'

The owner of the animal waited at the scene as emergency services arrived and the dog has now been seized.  Mr Nichol, who works as a tiler, said: 'We had gone to the shop together and she had paid for some bread at the till.  We came out and I pressed the button to cross the road and she said, "Can I stroke that dog?"  I said, "Yes, but you will have to ask the man first."  She said, "Can I stroke your dog?" and he said, "Yes, no problem."  She went to stroke the dog on the head. She loves dogs. She was stroking it really gently.  The dog jumped and she jumped back and I thought, that was lucky.  But then the next minute I saw her curled up on the floor and she said, "Dad".  She was crying and all her face was off. Her face was gone. It was just gruesome.  I booted it. I stamped on it. I picked my daughter up and went back to the house.  She was taken to hospital and she is stable and she has had stitches. But there's still so much to do.'

In the wake of a spate of recent dog attacks on children, Mr Nichol now believes all breeds should be muzzled.  He said: 'We have three dogs ourselves. We have a Staffie and two XL Bullies. But I would be happy to muzzle them.  If all dogs were muzzled it would just take away the risk. If it saved just one child it would be worth it.  Always be wary of dogs you don't know.  My daughter loved dogs, but this incident has obviously given her a full fear factor.  We're all still in shock at the moment. We can't believe this has happened.'

Family friend Kirsty Lavender, 32, said: 'She's such a brave, strong little girl, she's kind but she still needs a skin graft to reform her face.  Her mam and dad are very worried about her of course but she's bounced back really well so far.'

A neighbour who lives near where this latest attack happened said: 'The little girl asked to stroke the dog and it just went for her.  Her dad was straight over to help and he was booting the thing to get it away from her. She did nothing to provoke it and the owner seemed happy for her to pat the dog.  A dog that unpredictable should not have been out without a muzzle.'

Dr John Tulloch, a lecturer in veterinary public health at Liverpool University, previously said that the way Brits take care of dogs needs to change.  'We know dogs are now kept in the home for more than seven or eight hours on their own and they are going to get frustrated.  A lot of dogs don't get the exercise needs their health needs aren't being met and so they have the potential to be more anxious and nervous.  If you keep a dog in a horrible environment and they're not looked after they are going to have more behaviour problems and be more likely to bite.'

Dog attacks on children led to more than 1,000 surgeries last year with nearly 40% on victims under the age of four

Dog attacks left children needing surgery more than 1,000 times last year, including nearly 400 cases where the child was under the age of four.  In total, victims of all ages needed surgery after being bitten or mauled 3,473 times in 2022 the highest number since data was first released 16 years ago.  Experts said the number of children being attacked is 'very worrying' but that many of the bites are 'preventable'.  The shocking figures from NHS Digital showed that the total number of hospitalisations following dog attacks has nearly doubled from 4,699 in 2007/8 to 9,336 in 2022/3.  Dr John Tulloch, a lecturer in veterinary public health at Liverpool University, said: 'The growth in dog bites is faster than the growth in dog population so it can't just be that there are more dogs.'

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https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-11596175/My-ex-burned-mother-death-shed-police-took-seriously.html

My ex-husband burned my mother to death in front of me if the police had taken me seriously, she'd still be here today

    Susan Lynch has bravely shared her story in ITVX's A Murder in The Family
    The mother-of-two, 52, tried to raise the alarm with police about Kieren's threats
    In March 2018, Kieren murdered Susan's mother before setting himself on fire
    That morning, police had decreased the case's risk level from 'high' to 'medium'
 
By Lydia Hawken For Mailonline

Updated: 14:42, 5 January 2023

A woman has revealed how she watched in horror as her ex-husband burned her mother to death in front of her.  Susan Lynch, 52, from Benfleet, Essex, was at her mother Jennifer Cronin's home in March 2018 when her abusive ex Kieren Lynch, 50, broke into the garden with his arm was on fire.  As Susan made a cup of tea inside, Kieren doused Jennifer's face, head and back in petrol and set her on fire. He then engulfed the rest of his body in flames.   Kieren died later that evening at Broomfield Hospital in Chelmsford, Essex, while Jennifer passed away 17 days later.  Appearing on ITVX's new series A Murder in The Family, Susan stressed how she believes her mother would still be alive in police had taken her complaints seriously.  A spokesperson from Essex police confirmed that on the morning of the murder, officers changed the status of the case from 'high risk' to 'medium' meaning they did not expect there to be 'imminent' physical harm.   The couple who shared daughters Matilda and Molly were married for 24 years before Kieren developed a cocaine addiction. Susan said in the new show that his 'personality change when he'd had a drink'.

Detailing some of the early abuse she suffered at the hands of her husband, Susan explained: 'It would start with pushing and poking into your chest but it escalated over time. Gradually, more force would be used [such as] sitting on my chest or pushing on my throat.  He would be full of apologies the next day but there would always be a reason why he lost his temper.  I was embarrassed that I didn't do anything [in response]. I was embarrassed that it happened to me. I never said anything to anybody I never even told my mum. I just accepted it.'

After initially trying to help her husband, Susan ended the relationship when his volatile behaviour became too much to handle anymore.   Although Kieren started to get his life back on track in the wake of the split, Susan says he became aggressive again after learning she was seeing someone new.  In January 2018, he sent a string of violent text messages, before going to the family home and smashing up the garden patio with a hammer.  He was arrested for criminal damage but released on bail later that night, with conditions not to contact Susan.  But he continued to call her and her family up to 80 times a day and, the day before the petrol attack, even threatened to kill one of his daughters.  In the new show, Susan shared audio from a phone call she made to police 2am the night before her mother's murder.  She told police: 'My ex-husband is constantly calling me all through the night. He's doing it to my mum, where my daughter is staying.'

Terrified Susan called the police six times in just 24 hours, but Kieren was not re-arrested.  Jennifer was frightened by Kieren's threats and Susan had gone to comfort her mother at her house in South Benfleet, Essex, when Kieren arrived 'screaming his head off' with his arm on fire.  Unable to save her mother from the attack, Susan said: 'She had no eyebrows, no eyelashes. All her hair was burnt off.  Her hands were red raw. Her face everything was sort of black.'

The couple's daughter Matilda said: 'I didn't ever think it would end that way. Not my nan. I just wish something would have clicked in his head [to tell him] he'd gone too far.  People knew there was a problem, but none of us thought it was going to go this far at any point.'

Reflecting on what drove Kieran to murder, she continued: 'I think he did it to hurt me. He knew how close I was to my mum and he knew how much we meant to each other and I think it was the biggest way of hurting me.'

However, Susan is certain that her mother would still be alive if the police had responded quickly to her concerns.  She added: 'It could have been prevented. The police didn't protect us. We were shouting and screaming and waving it in their faces and the failings were shocking.  If they'd done their job properly, my mum would be here.'

Susan has previously said that neighbours tried to prevent her watching the scene unfold before the emergency services arrived but she wanted to be there for her mother in her final moments.  She said: 'I went to my mum, she was totally bald, all her hair had been burnt off. But she was so serene, she told me she loved me. I think she knew she was dying.'

Elsewhere in the programme, a spokesperson for Essex police said: 'At 7:29 in the morning of the 13th [March 2018], the case was re-risk assessed and it was declared that it was now medium risk rather than high.  Medium risk cases are where there is still potential risk of serious harm but that risk might not be imminent.  There had been a break-up and obviously Kieren was taking it extremely badly. It was dealt with as domestic break up and in hindsight, that was the wrong decision. It should have remained high.'

A week-long jury inquest in January 2019 concluded that Jennifer was unlawfully killed while Lynch died by suicide but poor communication by Essex Police had been a factor.  In March 2019, the Independent Office for Police Conduct (IOPC) identified a 'lack of clarity' over domestic abuse offences and a lack of 'positive action' from officers.  A domestic homicide review also criticised the police for allowing Lynch to slip through the net, saying his behaviour 'amounted to stalking'.  Detective Superintendent Stephen Jennings said: 'Since Jennifer's tragic death five years ago, domestic abuse crimes are falling, we have hundreds more officers who are dedicated to keeping people safe and catching criminals and we have invested significantly in our training and in specialist teams.  I have met Susan Lynch and apologised to her for what happened in 2018. I have personally invited her to come and talk to our new teams. We want to work together to make Essex an even safer place to live, and to make sure we prevent crimes in the future. We admire her and her family's bravery in speaking-out about what Kieren Lynch did to her and to her family. That's why we took part in the TV programme too.  We have also reviewed our approach to the way we identify our highest risk Domestic Abuse perpetrators, building an evidence-backed database that looks at multiple markers, including jealousy, stalking and history of violence. We have built whole new teams to support victims and manage risks from perpetrators we are a far stronger force than we were five years ago, in every way.'

A Murder in The Family lands exclusively on ITVX on Thursday 5th Jan. If you have been affected by the issues in this story, Women's Aid offers a free support line: 01708 765200

What is coercive control?

Coercive control became a criminal offence in December 2015. It describes a pattern of behaviour by an abuser to harm, punish or frighten their victim. This pattern of behaviour can include manipulation, degradation, gaslighting and also monitoring and controlling the person’s day-to-day life from whether they can see friends and families, to what activities they can undertake and what clothing they can wear.  A 2014 study found that 95 out of 100 domestic abuse survivors reported experiencing coercive control.  Further studies in 2015 found that women are far more likely than men to be victims of abuse that involves ongoing degradation and frightening threats – two key elements of coercive control.

Typical red flags include:

    Your partner bombards you with messages and gets angry when you don't reply
    From 'idolising' you in the beginning, your partner chips away at your self-esteem by withdrawing affection 
    Your partner takes everyday decisions are taken out of your hands 
    Suggests a joint bank account and demand to know what you've spent money on 
    Your partner wants a say over who you are friends with, attempts to control how you look and dress and begins to exert control over what job you do.

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Faith / Trusting God for Comfort in Weary Seasons
« on: June 30, 2023, 01:35:13 PM »
https://proverbs31.org/read/devotions/full-post/2022/06/01/trusting-god-for-comfort-in-weary-seasons?utm_campaign=Daily%20Devotions&utm_medium=email&_hsmi=214308800&_hsenc=p2ANqtz-80f-teVp6wOJQ9klkFcyUl8GwGb1lZlUPGkzukilXdJAOGTCf_i4uwZudLNdvEkNbrWTkmltJKVztq6mShDDrv-i-k7Q&utm_content=214308800&utm_source=hs_email#disqus_thread

Trusting God for Comfort in Weary Seasons
June 1, 2022
by Mellissa Spoelstra

“But those who trust in the Lᴏʀᴅ will find new strength. They will soar high on wings like eagles. They will run and not grow weary. They will walk and not faint.” Isaiah 40:31 (NLT)

I left the Zoom meeting and raced out of the house, hoping to stop at Target to pick up a gift to bring to my lunch appointment.  As I sped into the store, I got a call from my caseworker. She wanted to discuss some concerns regarding our foster son. I talked with her while quickly getting what I needed and then plugged the restaurant’s address into my phone.  The ETA revealed I was going to be late, and I hate being late. With thoughts of my foster son and my tardiness invading my mind, I found parking and realized the meter required me to download an app on my phone and enter payment information. Whatever happened to good old quarters in a meter?

I hurriedly completed the task, slammed the car door and began walking to the restaurant. Then it hit me I forgot to grab a face mask. Since this happened during the COVID-19 pandemic and the restaurant had a mask mandate, I couldn’t enter without one.  So I ran back to the car and then searched my pockets for my key. It wasn’t there. I peeked into my vehicle and saw it on the passenger seat.  After my husband brought me a spare key, I finally arrived home later, exhausted physically, emotionally and mentally.  I’ll bet you’ve had days like this, too maybe even weeks or months of weariness. In these situations, I crave my favorite creature comforts watching television, eating ice cream, or scrolling through social media to distract myself from fatigue and frustration. None of these things are inherently sinful, but I wonder how my soul is affected when I make a habit of comforting myself with methods of escape that aren’t necessarily healthy.  An Old Testament prophet named Isaiah addressed the need to turn from counterfeit comforts in order to receive God’s genuine comfort. The original audience of Isaiah’s message had tried to bring God down to their level by thinking of Him as weary or forgetful. We can also be in danger of reducing our magnificent God to our human frailties. Many of us can relate to doubting whether God sees or intervenes during our times of weariness or even in more significant times of distress when we grieve losses, experience betrayal or encounter difficult circumstances.  Isaiah used these questions to remind Israel of God’s character: “Have you never heard? Have you never understood?” (Isaiah 40:28a-b, NLT).

In essence, he was saying, “Don’t you know who your God really is?” God is the everlasting Creator of the whole earth. He doesn’t get weary like we do, and the depths of His understanding can’t be measured. 

Isaiah ends Chapter 40 with this encouragement: “But those who trust in the Lᴏʀᴅ will find new strength. They will soar high on wings like eagles. They will run and not grow weary. They will walk and not faint” (Isaiah 40:31).

Some Bible translations use the word “wait” while others use “trust” to describe those who will find new strength. If we are trusting, waiting and hoping in the Lord, our counterfeit comforts lose their luster.  Isaiah makes a case that it isn’t duty but delight to experience God’s comfort. I don’t want to swat at my bad habits, willing myself to stop watching television or eating ice cream, but rather enlarge my view of the Lord so it deepens my belief. This is how we move from surface-level behavior modification to heart-level transformation.  When you have a weary day or season, I pray you will trust in the Lord to renew your strength rather than reaching for remotes or refreshments. Our creature comforts may provide temporary distraction, but they will not restore our souls. God knows all about long meetings, unexpected phone calls, keys locked in cars, and the more significant losses and frustrations that lead to your exhaustion. He calls you to trust Him for the power and strength you will never find in counterfeit comforts.

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Faith / Finding the Beauty in Our Limitations
« on: June 30, 2023, 01:28:54 PM »
https://proverbs31.org/read/devotions/full-post/2022/05/31/finding-the-beauty-in-our-limitations?utm_campaign=Daily%20Devotions&utm_medium=email&_hsmi=214848359&_hsenc=p2ANqtz--vCt1PyMj8RKUWQ5yonJrQjKR_SvsmLvI1647NgseG8iYG-HEJhN_qsHkBqrNVmlSwCIHYPKXLBVzfI7cjiDiMINphhQ&utm_content=214848359&utm_source=hs_email#disqus_thread

Finding the Beauty in Our Limitations
May 31, 2022
by Meredith Houston Carr

“For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but one who in every aspect has been tempted as we are, yet without sin.” Hebrews 4:15 (ESV)

I am not a fan of limitations.  Apparently, my daughter feels much the same way. This fact became painfully evident as we undertook the all-important job of decorating her Valentine’s Day “mailbox” where she would receive cards and candy from her elementary-school classmates on February 14.  Her creative little heart worked for hours at our kitchen table cutting, painting, coloring and finally gluing on all her ornate creations of felt puffs and pipe cleaners. But as she found out the hard way, there’s only so much a bottle of glue can do.  When her mental masterpiece turned out to be a dismal disaster, that sweet baby lay on the floor and cried her big blue eyes out. I’m not the crafty-mom type but even if “Miss Pinterest” herself showed up at our door, this mailbox was never going to look the way my daughter had envisioned.  The limits of glue and gravity left her heartbroken, discouraged and defeated.  Boy, can I relate to those feelings. I wonder if you can, too. Our world preaches the gospel of “you can do anything” and “transcend your limitations” yet deep in our souls, we know this gospel is false.  We face limits in our bodies, minds and jobs every day. We experience roadblocks in our relationships. We reach the end of our talents. And when we regularly run into limitations of our character like those temptations we can’t seem to resist our confidence wanes.  We may even begin to wonder if our limitations render us unusable to God. When we beat our wings against the walls of our weaknesses, Satan taunts us with the fear that we’ll never measure up to our own standards much less God’s.  But God knows we can’t measure up on our own; that’s why He sent His Son, Jesus.  “For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but one who in every respect has been tempted as we are, yet without sin.” (Hebrews 4:15)

Graciously, the writer of Hebrews reminds us how much our Savior relates to and sympathizes with our humanity. Jesus was fully divine, yet we can’t forget He was also fully human. Like us, Jesus became tired and hungry. He experienced temptation. (Luke 4:1-13) He wept from heartache. (John 11:35) He fully understands the limits of our humanity.  And still He calls us into Himself. He says, “I understand, and I have the mercy and grace you need most.” (Hebrews 4:16)

As we invite Jesus into our limitations, prayerfully answering these questions can help us make progress and grow in faith:

1. What do I believe this limitation prevents me from achieving or becoming? God often uses our weaknesses to reveal areas of misplaced trust or idolatry. Are we looking for worth in a particular relationship? Are we putting our confidence in our accomplishments? Asking these questions can help us root out beliefs and motivations that may be hindering our growth.

2. What lesson or truth might God be trying to teach me through this limitation? Our shortcomings frustrate us, but more often than not, they are packed with important lessons. We can better hear God speaking new spiritual insights into our hearts when we take a step back and ask Him for wisdom.

3. What specific scriptures can I pray over my heart? God’s Word is full of Truth that equips us for any and every weakness we encounter. We can invite the power of His Word into our weak spots by praying specific verses over them.

It’s easy to feel like our limitations disqualify us from meaningful Kingdom work, but what if we rejected the enemy’s lies and began to view our weaknesses through a different lens?

What if they’re not simply something to cover up or conquer but are an invitation into deeper fellowship with the God who understands and loves us?

Dear one, our shortcomings don’t have to hold us back or rob our joy. Here’s the beautiful truth: When our limitations lead us to Christ, our souls find the comfort they crave. So today, may we willingly lean into our limits and let the strength of our Savior carry us through.

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https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-12152685/Mothers-heart-breaking-belief-20-years-searching-missing-son-went-bike.html

The little boy who vanished exactly four years before Maddie: Mother's heart-breaking belief after 20 years of searching for missing son who went out on his bike but never came home

    Daniel Entwistle has not been seen since he was aged seven on May 3, 2003
    His mother Paula Taylor, 50, believes he drowned after falling into a river

By Andrew Young

Published: 09:14, 3 June 2023 | Updated: 11:47, 3 June 2023

The mother of a boy who disappeared 20-years-ago on the same date as Madeleine McCann went missing has told for the first time how she believes he drowned after falling into a river.  Daniel Entwistle has not been seen since he failed to return home after going out to play when he was aged seven on May 3, 2003.  His mother Paula Taylor, 50, dismissed rumours that her former husband David Entwistle had harmed their son, despite him having once been jailed for six months for a child sex offence.  Ms Taylor said that she knew nothing about his conviction in 1987 for having sex with a 12-year-old girl until police told her about it after Daniel went missing.  She admitted it was one of the reasons they split up in the weeks after Daniel seemingly vanished.  But in an exclusive interview with MailOnline, she said: ‘The last time Daniel was seen he was on his bike and he was on his own. If the police thought David was anything to do with it, he would have been locked up.’

She is convinced that her much-loved son drowned close to where his red BMX bike was found at Trinity Quay next to the River Yare in Great Yarmouth, Norfolk.  Ms Taylor believes that he fell into the fast-flowing water and was swept away after scaling the 3ft high river wall to stand on top of the wide ledge.  She said: ‘There have been all sorts of rumours and theories but I am sure that he went into the river.  It’s not a big mystery. The police showed me CCTV of him riding his bike across a garage forecourt towards the quay and he didn’t come out again. Nobody else was shown going towards the quay so it looks like he was on his own.  I think he had gone to the garage because he wanted to buy a Kinder egg and they didn’t have any in the shop where he had been earlier.’

Speaking of her agony about his body never being found, she added: ‘You never get closure. You just have to learn to live with it.  The police have to keep an open mind because they have to keep a missing person’s case open. I could go to court to say that he’s passed away, but I would have to dig everything up again and it is too much hassle.  You have to move on and carry on, but maybe one day they might find something.’

The search for Daniel quickly faded from headlines in 2003, even though police could not rule out fears that he had been abducted.  The limited coverage was in stark contrast to the continuing attention given to the hunt for three-year-old Madeleine who disappeared in Portugal on May 3, 2007.  The enduring mystery of how Madeleine, the daughter of two doctors, disappeared from her holiday apartment in Praia Da Luz has kept her case firmly in the public eye for 16 years.  But Daniel who was said to have had Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder and was allegedly bullied at school, came from a working class family, lived on a council estate and was used to roaming the streets by himself.  Ms Taylor told MailOnline: ‘Everybody is still reporting about Madelene McCann, but people should focus on all the other children who go missing with nobody talking about them.  Madeleine’s parents have lost a child and I understand their pain, but it is the circumstances. People ridiculed me because I lived on a council estate. I got accused of being manic depressive when I wasn’t.  Madeleine was the daughter of two doctors in a certain income bracket. They also had all the PR and politicians behind them. But there are other parents going through the same thing.’

Mr Entwistle’s conviction at Preston Crown Court was only made public after he was found dead aged 53 in January 2015 at his bedsit where he lived alone in Lowestoft.  MailOnline can reveal that he also spoke before his death of his belief that Daniel had died accidentally after falling into the river.  In previously unpublished comments made to a news agency reporter in 2008, he said that Daniel’s ADHD had made him behave recklessly.  He said: ‘Daniel had no fear of anything. When he was just two-years-old, he poured a kettle of hot water over himself and was in hospital in Manchester for three months with 50 per cent burns to his chest and neck.  After he went missing we found out he had been climbing up on to our neighbour’s sunroof and sunbathing for a laugh.  We also discovered he had been going down to the Pleasure Beach in Great Yarmouth with his brother and trying out all the rides which the local kids were allowed to do so before the summer season started.  But what made it really bad is that his body was never found. It has meant that we have never been able to bury him and have any sort of closure.  I turned to drinking because I could not face reality. Paula and I split up in September 2003 because I was not there to give her the support she needed.’

Daniel went missing three years after moving to the seaside town with his parents from their former home in Burnley, Lancashire.  The family spent the afternoon of Saturday May 3, 2003, shopping in Gorleston for clothes to take on a holiday to Tenerife which they had booked.  Ms Taylor who suffers from epilepsy went to bed because she felt unwell when they returned to their end terraced home overlooked by a derelict Victorian gas holder in Copperfield Avenue on the Barrack estate in Great Yarmouth.  Rail maintenance worker Mr Entwistle was left looking after their three sons Antony, ten, Daniel, seven, and two-year-old John.  He sent Daniel out to buy a bottle of milk for John from Blencowe’s corner shop around 50 yards from their home on a nearby road. He also gave him 50p to buy sweets.  CCTV images from the store taken at 5.02pm show 3ft 2ins tall Daniel walking down an aisle in the store in his blue Adidas T shirt, blue tracksuit bottoms and grey coloured training shoes.  After returning home to drop off the bottle, he headed out again on his bike and was last seen around 300 yards away on the CCTV at the garage next to Trinity Quay at 5.14pm.  Mr Entwistle recalled in his interview in 2008 that he asked his stepson Antony to go out and look for Daniel.  He said: ‘He came back a short while later because he could not find him. I went out for a general look but there was no sign of him. Then I started to panic.  Paula rang her sister who came round with her boyfriend. By then it was about 7.30 pm. Her partner and I drove around in different directions and agreed to meet at the house again in half an hour.  When we got back, we rang the police. A single officer came round in a car, and I went out with him for a look. The officer realised it was serious and radioed his guvnors to say that this little lad had been missing since 5pm.  A full scale search was then launched. Word got out that Daniel was missing, and half the street turned out to join the search. The police were out all night and assigned us a family liaison officer.  ‘One of our neighbours was looking around when he saw Daniel’s little red bike on some spare land about ten or 15 yards from the river.  The front tyre was flat from a puncture. I had tried to repair it earlier on, but obviously had not done it properly. The police then took me to see the bike.  When I saw it, I just started crying and ran towards the river wall. I just knew he had gone in the river. I had to go back and tell Paula that the bike had been found next to the river about two or three minutes from our house. She just broke down.’

Norfolk Police announced Daniel’s disappearance the following day, and his parents appeared at a press conference in a local community centre to appeal for information from anyone who had seen him.  Ms Taylor told reporters: ‘He's outgoing, he's pleasant, he can be mischievous like a lot of children and he's a bit of a loner. But he says 'Hi' to anybody. He has friends that live locally and we just thought he was there.’

It was revealed that Daniel had been seen in the Trinity Quay area earlier on the day he disappeared when he was watching a group of boys throw stones in the water. Police also disclosed that he had once previously disappeared, but only for about two hours.  Police divers searched the river while teams of officers scoured land all over the town and questioned known local sex offenders.  Mr Entwistle said: ‘I suffer from blackouts and just before I went in to see the press, I nearly fainted. The next day Paula and I got questioned at separate police stations for nine hours each. The police started making inquiries in Lancashire in case Daniel was up there.  The police were 100 per cent helpful and sympathetic. There was no way they were pointing the finger at us – but some people in the community wrongly assumed that we had something to do with Daniel going missing.’

In the following days, Daniel’s parents were pictured helping to put up posters about his disappearance around as police searched the riverbed with sonar equipment.  Mr Entwistle added in his interview that he and his wife were the subject of cruel gossip.  He said: ‘Someone told one of the papers that Paula and I were always in the pub. It was just rubbish. Paula is not a drinker and although we did go out, it was not that much.  I had not been drinking on the day he went missing because I was due to work that night. I would have been sacked if I had gone to work drunk.  One report said that he had been turning up to school with bruising. That was rubbish as well. Paula and I never laid a finger on any of our kids.  Over the following weeks I tried to keep a glimmer of hope alive. We both just hoped that he would somehow turn up but the police told us to be prepared for the worst.’

Daniel’s family were told that a child’s training shoe had been found washed up on a local beach, but it turned out to be a different size to the ones worn by Daniel.  In recent years, local gossips and web sleuths have also speculated that two notorious local paedophiles may have killed Daniel.  Jim Hall, 60, and Andrew Ventham, 49, killed themselves in November 2009 in their car repair garage, just 300 yards from where Daniel’s bike was found.  An inquest heard how the pair died in a fume filled car after murdering Derick Tempest, 30, who had been demanding cash from them in return for keeping quiet about how they had abused him as a 13-year-old boy.  The two mechanics made payments of (pounds) 1,000 and (pounds) 800 after he allegedly saw them with other young boys.  They are believed to have killed him when he demanded more money on a third visit to their business Hall's Garage in Camden Place, Great Yarmouth.  A note in Mr Hall's handwriting, made it clear that the pair who lived together intended to kill themselves, saying: ‘Sorry about this, but events have conspired against us.’

The body of Mr Tempest with a 15kg vehicle brake drum tied around his waist was found in April, 2010, in the River Yare near the Berney Arms pub, near Great Yarmouth.  A post mortem failed to establish how he had died because his body was so decomposed.  Norfolk Police revealed at the inquest that there was ‘strong evidence’ that Hall and Ventham had killed Mr Tempest and would have been charged with murder if they had lived.   Norfolk coroner William Armstrong recorded verdicts that Mr Tempest had been unlawfully killed, and that Hall and Ventham had died by suicide.  He added: ‘There is a substantial and impressive body of evidence which leads irresistibly to the conclusion that Mr Hall and Mr Ventham had for many years been behaving in an inappropriate way with young males.  There is equally clear evidence that Derick Tempest was effectively blackmailing them.’

Ms Taylor told MailOnline how Norfolk Police knew nothing about Hall and Ventham when Daniel disappeared.  She added that a police family liaison officer had told her after the pair died that they may have murdered a former victim who was trying to blackmail them.  But she said: ‘They searched their garage and house, and found nothing at all to link them to Daniel.  I know there have been people on Facebook saying they killed Daniel, but it was nothing to do with them blokes.’

Mother-of-four Debbie Munday, 40, who used to live on the Barrack estate told MailOnline how she remembered Daniel often being out alone in the months before he disappeared.  She said: ‘He was dinky and not very tall. I used to try and engage with him, but he wouldn’t speak.  On the day he disappeared, it was overcast and I remember seeing him come away on his little scooter. He was going in and out of the road, and I remarked to my ex-husband about him being on his own. I waved at him and told him to get back on the pavement.  I would often see him trying to carry shopping by himself, and lugging around big bottles of milk. I think he may have been playing on the wall at the edge of the water and fallen in.’

Debbie’s mother Susan Hutchison who lives in Copperfield Avenue, added: ‘Daniel used to come in the fish and chip show where I worked. His parents would send him out with an order written down on a bit of paper. It was as if he couldn’t speak properly.  I used to see him out alone, sometimes down by the quay or along the seafront. My partner who worked down at the Pleasure Beach used to see his bike down there.’

But another woman living near Daniel’s old home said: ‘I don’t think he had any problem talking. It was just that his parents would give him notes for the shop, so he got an order right.  I was always chatting to him because I knew his parents. Once, my husband found him on our fence. My husband told him to get off, and he said ‘No’. I had to get him to move. He was cheeky in a funny way.  Two police officers came round to check our shed on the day after he disappeared. One of them told me it was almost certain that he had gone in the river.’

Eleanor Levi Killett, 27, who was a pupil with Daniel at the Greenacre First and Middle School, said she remembered him as a friend who chased her around while ‘pretending to be a dinosaur’.  She told MailOnline: ‘He was a lovely lad with a cheeky smile. He was very bright and funny.’

Andy Guy, the Unsolved Case Review Manager for Norfolk Police, said: ‘We recognise the enormity of two decades passing since Daniel went missing, and the impact this has had on his family in that time.  As a force we remain committed to finding answers for them, and we have continued to explore new lines of enquiry in this case in response to new and credible information.  In the last five years we have pursued 12 pieces of information passed to us.  However, despite the original investigation carried out in 2003, our continued efforts and the subsequent appeals in the intervening years, no information or evidence has yet established what happened to Daniel since the last confirmed sighting of him on 3 May 2003.  Daniel's case remains active and anyone who has credible information that has not been previously passed to the police can contact us on 01953 423819 or email unsolvedcasereviews@norfolk.police.uk or Crimestoppers anonymously on 0800 555 111.’

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Fun, Games And Silliness / FUNNY (and real) SIGNS Part 2
« on: April 20, 2023, 12:32:26 PM »
FUNNY (and real) SIGNS

Part 2

I recently observed a sign out front of a church intending to advertise a fundraiser for the youth group: "Archery Shoot Youth Fundraiser." (Eric)

The funniest sign I've seen lately is on the road leading into the Birmingham, AL airport. It says "Parking" and has an arrow...pointing at the graveyard! (Lalaclown)

In San Luis Obispo, all the city busses have plastered on their sides, "SLO Transit." (SLO is the abbreviation of the city name.)

The funniest sign I ever saw was apparently supposed to be a Christmas message.  It was a very simple sign.  All it said was, "This shall be a sign to you." (Tim)

At First Assembly of God in Union Grove, WI, the sign out front once read: "Thou shalt have no other gods before me. Sun worship 10:30 am." (Daniel)

A barber in East Petersburg, PA has a sign stating, "I need your head in my business." (Vivian)

In Amarillo, TX there is a Burger King sign that reads, "Work for the King, Not The Clown" (referring to McDonalds). (Alan)

At our AA clubhouse in Lemon Grove, a sign on the bulletin board states: "Unattended children will be given espresso and a free puppy!" (Lisa)

There's a brake shop in Brea that has a sign that says: "We stand in front of our brake jobs." (Cindy)

Sign at a hairdresser: "I'm a beautician, not a magician." (Barbara)

For a local sanitation company: "You Dump It! We Pump It!" (Taboo)

On a veterinarian/taxidermist marquee: "Either way you get your cat back." (J Bo)

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Fun, Games And Silliness / FUNNY (and real) SIGNS
« on: April 20, 2023, 12:30:59 PM »
FUNNY (and real) SIGNS

Part 1

I saw a sign in a Stavanger, Norway hairdresser: "Nice face...shame about the hair." (Paul)

Here's one from Down Under...a sign from a furniture company: "Our beds are factory trained not to climb on your children. Please show the same courtesy." (Mary)

One of the best signs I've seen here in New Zealand was on a van in the UK belonging to a curtain and blind retailer. The message on the back of the van said, "This van is being driven by a blind man!" (Kev)

While traveling on Interstate 40 through eastern New Mexico, we stopped at a rest area to use the bathroom. There was construction going on and a sign actually said, "Please use sidewalk." (Larry)

Just a few years back, one of our utility companies bore the unfortunate name, "People's Natural Gas."  No comment. (Daren)

Our local Subway had a sign that said, "Now hiring - 6 in tuna- $6.59." Poor, underpaid, overworked tiny tuna! (Jennifer)

A sign that was up for a while at a hot dog stand on Jefferson Road: "We relish your buns." (Mike)

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https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-11984799/Grandmother-arranged-daughter-law-murdered-honour-killing-FREED-jail.html

EXCLUSIVE: Grandmother, 86, who arranged for her daughter-in-law, 27, to be lured to India and murdered in honour killing is FREED from jail despite Dominic Raab bid to keep her caged

    Bachan Kaur Athwal, now 86, was jailed in 2007 for murdering Surjit Athwal
    Read more:  Mother who murdered her 42-day old baby could be freed from jail

By Andy Gardner

Published: 10:02, 18 April 2023 | Updated: 12:07, 18 April 2023

A grandmother who arranged for her daughter-in-law to be murdered in a so-called honour killing in India has been freed from prison despite a bid by Justice Secretary Dominic Raab to keep her locked up.  Bachan Kaur Athwal, now 86, was jailed in 2007 for ordering the murder of 27-year-old Surjit Athwal after learning she was having an affair and wanted to divorce her son.  Athwal, then 70, was sentenced alongside her son Sukhdave for ordering the murder of Surjit, from Hayes, in west London, who went missing during a trip to India in 1998.  MailOnline revealed in June last year that the Parole Board had recommended that Athwal, who is in poor health and suffers from dementia, should be released on licence.  A month later, this website revealed how the Parole Board decision had been challenged by the Justice Secretary, who argued that the panel placed inappropriate weight on 'health factors' and 'failed to consider appropriately risk-related evidence'.  Mr Raab also argued the panel failed 'to consider the non-disclosure of information about victims'.  Despite the appeal, the Parole Board rejected the minister's arguments.  MailOnline can reveal that Athwal was released from prison in August last year and is believed to be being looked after by family under certain restrictions.  Athwal and son Sukhdave, then aged 43, were sentenced to life after being found guilty of the honour killing of Surjit.  At the time, Athwal was one of the oldest people in the country to be jailed for murder.  Surjit disappeared after travelling with her mother-in-law from the UK to India for a family wedding in December 1998.   The young bride who was forcibly wed to Sukhdave at 16 was subsequently murdered but her body has never been found.  Athwal and her family treated Surjit like a slave and plotted to kill her over fears she was too rebellious and was tarnishing the family name.  Mum-of-two Surjit lived with the family in Hayes and is said to have suffered abuse in the home.  Sukhdave took out a £100,000 insurance policy on his wife the day she left for India but it did not pay out.  He later divorced Surjit in her absence, claiming she deserted him, and then married someone else.  Before her release, the Justice Secretary argued that Athwal still posed a risk to society.  In May last year, she slapped her daughter during a prison visit and assaulted a member of staff and another inmate on two separate occasions.  In Athwal's appeal, the prison offender manager gave evidence that before the onset of dementia she had shown no instances of aggression.  The assaults were described as 'low level' because nobody was injured.  Medical tests suggested elderly Athwal 'would be difficult to manage in exactly the same way as any other person suffering from dementia and no more'.

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Faith / Life After Loss
« on: March 23, 2023, 06:53:44 PM »
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Life After Loss
March 8, 2022

by Christina Patterson

“And the LORD blessed the latter days of Job more than his beginning. And he had 14,000 sheep, 6,000 camels, 1,000 yoke of oxen, and 1,000 female donkeys.” Job 42:12 (ESV)

When I reminded him this was the last time I’d see him, he laughingly responded, “Good. Let’s keep it that way.”

Normally goodbyes aren’t so cheerful, but after months of painful physical therapy, I was excited to finally be on the road to complete recovery even if that meant saying farewell to my amazing therapist.  Several weeks earlier, a slipped disc in my cervical spine ushered in months of emergency room visits, canceled plans, and pain management. The journey to healing was excruciating and filled with many tears; however, as my body recovered, I soon realized there was another healing I would need.  The physical pain my body endured began to slowly feed a fear that it would happen again. As I recuperated, I wondered if a trip to the grocery store would lead to a hospital visit or if taking the laundry out of the dryer would warrant a doctor’s call. I was afraid to live my life again.  The fragility of my physical body wore heavily on my soul as I learned that many times it’s the emotional and mental healing that takes the longest. As I shared my anxiety with my husband, he reminded me about Job, who went through more pain than any of us would like to imagine. Even still, God blessed the latter parts of Job's life “more than his beginning” (Job 42:12).

Job is often remembered for the severe and heartbreaking tragedy he endured. The losses of his children, wealth and health are all recorded within the first few chapters of the book of Job. Much of the book documents him navigating loss, disappointment and despair. It’s not until the final chapter that we learn of his restoration:  “And the LORD blessed the latter days of Job more than his beginning. And he had 14,000 sheep, 6,000 camels, 1,000 yoke of oxen, and 1,000 female donkeys” (Job 42:12).

I’ve often read the conclusion of Job’s testimony like an immediate, fairy-tale ending. As I reflected again on his story, I realized God did not bring back what Job lost, but He blessed the life Job had left. God’s blessing did not happen overnight but was a process that would take Job’s involvement.  When Job saw his sores close up and heal, he chose to get up from his sickbed. When he realized his sorrow was not the end, he chose to eat again. When he discovered the goodness of God even in tragedy, he decided to keep living so God would have a life to bless.  As I healed from my injury, I, too, slowly got back to life: cheering at my kid’s basketball practices, taking evening walks and planning birthday parties. Job’s life taught me the challenges we face are not the end of our story. We don’t often choose the storms that knock us down, but we do get to choose if we’ll get back up.  After any storm, there is time spent assessing the damage. Time to realize what was lost and what remains. I don’t know what you may have lost due to the unexpected storms of life: a loved one, a cherished relationship or the comfort of what used to be. What I do know is that, if you’re reading this, you still have life for God to bless. That life may be different, but with God, it can still be good.  Job teaches us not to allow our fear of getting knocked down to overtake our faith to keep getting back up. There is life on the other side of loss, and God is able to bless it.

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Faith / When You Feel Behind
« on: March 23, 2023, 06:46:38 PM »
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When You Feel Behind
March 7, 2022

by Meghan Ryan

“I remain confident of this: I will see the goodness of the LORD in the land of the living.” Psalm 27:13 (NIV)

It was a typical Tuesday-night get-together with three of my closest friends. However, a lot had changed in the last few weeks. One friend had a baby, and another got married; the third friend was sharing about an exciting new job opportunity.  While I held my friend’s baby, in a beautiful new home she owned, and listened to all the news I was genuinely so thrilled to hear, I felt myself start to panic.  I had nothing new to share. I didn’t even have the prospect of a house, husband, baby or promotion coming.  The lie looped on repeat in my head: I’m behind.  Do you ever feel like I do, like everyone is moving on without you? Like everyone is graduating to a new phase of life, and you’re stuck where you are?

Whether it’s watching another friend get married or have a baby, or finding out someone you know is buying a home, it’s easy to look around and wonder: Did I miss something?

In those moments, I often question myself. Was I not in the right city or at the right job?

Did I miss what God was calling me to do? Why does it seem like things are happening for everyone else but me?

But Psalm 27:13 tells us where we can place our confidence when we feel behind: “I remain confident of this: I will see the goodness of the LORD in the land of the living.”

When I reflect on this verse, I know those questions I ask myself aren’t true. I can see glimpses of the goodness of God right now. I can see some of the ways He has been working out the details of my life along the way. And when I pause to reflect on this, I remember life is not about getting to the next destination or graduating to another life phase; it’s about being faithful with what’s in front of you and around you right now. (Hebrews 11:13)  If you're feeling “behind” today, here are four ways I've found encouragement to combat those lies:

    Pray with honesty. We can still be honest about what we long for even when we learn to enjoy what we have now. Prayer has the power to change things, so don’t stop asking and believing for God to move. (1 Peter 5:7)

    Put down the social media. When we stop looking at what everyone else has or what they are doing, we are better able to love the life that’s right in front of us. (James 3:16)

    Practice gratitude. Slowing down long enough to appreciate the gifts God has already given makes us feel less like we are missing out on something. (1 Thessalonians 5:18)

    Change your perspective. There are things in my life today that I used to pray for, and that perspective changes how I live. There are also things in my life that other people are praying for. (Hebrews 12:2)

There are still many days when I’m frustrated by things that haven’t changed in my life. But when we look back and see evidence of God’s faithfulness then, we can have confidence He is still being faithful now.  The next time you experience the fear of being behind, remember: You are not behind.  God is writing a story that is unique to YOU. It may not be the story you want, and it may not be in the timing you want, but He is not leaving you behind. Over and over, the Bible shows us He has not forgotten us. Like Romans 8:28 says, whatever He is working out behind the scenes is for your good and His glory.

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Learning To Live in a World With Unanswered “Whys”
March 4, 2022

by Karen Ehman

“O my God, I cry by day, but you do not answer, and by night, but I find no rest.” Psalm 22:2 (ESV)

A close friend and I recently took a walk together at a nearby nature center, trying our best to cheer each other up. She even tried interjecting a little humor into the conversation.  “It reminds me of that old saying,” she quipped. “‘If it weren’t for bad luck, I’d have no luck at all!’”

Even though neither of us believe in “luck,” I giggled for a welcome moment as together we recounted the hard experiences we’d both endured in the recent past.  Due to downsizing, she’d lost a job she loved. She’d also lost a decade-old friendship over what should have been a simple misunderstanding. A few family members were also now altering their relationships with her over some political differences, heaping on further heartbreak. And most recently, her beloved family dog had passed away.  I could relate to her feelings of loss. I’d seen 10 extended family members buried, including my father and my mother, within barely two years. We also moved to a new town at the beginning of that time so the kids could be closer to all the grandparents on my side of the family the very relatives who began passing just three weeks after we moved. Nearly all of this happened during the first year-and-a-half of the pandemic.  During this time, I found myself behaving like a toddler following around her parents, uttering that one-syllable word repeatedly with each new situation she encounters: “Why?”

Why did God move us to a brand-new town just 10 minutes from my parents if they were both going to pass away so shortly after we moved?

Why did a cousin of mine have to bury her mother while almost simultaneously burying her husband, nearly collapsing under the weight of such grief?

And of course, probably all of us wonder why this dangerous and disruptive pandemic has hit.  I take comfort in knowing the writers of the psalms often lamented, wrestling with questions of “why” and expressing deep grief. In Psalm 22:2, written by King David, we read his relentless begging for answers from God, even when none were anywhere in sight:  “O my God, I cry by day, but you do not answer, and by night, but I find no rest.”

The psalmists didn’t possess a slick, easy formula for learning to live in a world without the answers to “why.” What they did have was a freedom to pour out their sorrows before the Lord, knowing He hears even when we, as humans, don’t feel like He’s listening.  Like the psalmists, we must all sometimes dwell in the space between the now and the not-yet that future time when we will no longer wonder but will reside in a place without sorrow or tears. I’ve learned there are some benefits to dwelling in this in-between place.  I’ve discovered that not knowing “why” pushes me harder into God’s Word. It makes me long to cling to the Lord like nothing else does. It grants me deep empathy for others who are also navigating a life without answers. In short, living in a world with unanswered “whys” forces me to lean on Jesus with every ounce of my being.  Might we be bold enough to trade in our “why” for a “who”?

God can help us resist putting so much emphasis on all our unanswered questions. Instead, He will enable us to develop a closer walk with Him the One who tenderly sustains us even though our “whys” yet linger.

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