The Solution for the Problem of Messy Emotions

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The Solution for the Problem of Messy Emotions
January 28, 2022

by Amy Carroll

“Trust in him at all times, you people; pour out your hearts to him, for God is our refuge.” Psalm 62:8 (NIV)

I didn’t like the assignment I was receiving. At. All.  Surely spiritual direction should come with a to-do list or a reading assignment, but instead my counselor asked me to “sit in my feelings.” When I protested, she gently said, “Amy, you don’t need an action step or a book to read. Your ‘doing’ muscle is very strong, but your ‘feeling’ muscles need some work.”

Although it was painful to hear, I knew she was right. I’ve gained much wisdom in my life over the years, but I’m still building greater emotional maturity.  My natural temperament runs toward positivity, which is a great gift. However, I’ve never pushed into the hard work of learning to process my negative emotions in healthy ways. Instead, I’ve glossed over them, pushed forward through life, steadfastly declaring, “I’ll think about that tomorrow.”

Truthfully, those coping mechanisms can work fairly well for us until well, until they don’t anymore. Then the resentment turns to rage. The hurt is debilitating. The grief is soul-crushing. The weariness spirals into utter exhaustion. The waves of disappointment start to take us under. We may attempt to bury our emotions, but they’ll only push out of those graves in forms more horrifying than before.  King David, the author of many psalms, understood that pushing past our emotions is a problem. Pouring them out to God is the solution. David says, “Trust in him at all times, you people; pour out your hearts to him, for God is our refuge” (Psalm 62:8).

David knew that the secret we’d need when dealing with all of our feelings the good, the bad and the ugly is taking them to our trustworthy God.  He alone holds the key to healthy emotions. God is our refuge, our protector and the safe place for all we feel.  The beautiful thing is that King David put this truth into practice. As I tried to put my counselor’s wisdom to work, I asked God for guidance. The Lord sent me to Psalm, and I’ve been reading and recording all the emotions included there. The variety and nuances are astounding. In just the first seven chapters of Psalm, I found: anger, agony, shame, blessedness, delight, distress, deception, dismay, disgrace, disillusionment, expectation, fear, guilt, hate, joy, love, mistrust, need, peace, reverence, shame, sorrow, security, trust, wrath and weakness.  David’s vivid use of language shows us that he processed the full gamut of his emotions, and those of others, with God. As I read, my list grows, and before I finish the book, I expect to have at least one emotion for every letter of the alphabet! David didn’t hold anything back, and he encourages us, too modern readers who need his ancient wisdom to pour out our hearts to God.  I’m stepping into the gift God offers, a safe space to process everything from joy to sorrow, and I invite you to come with me. There is no emotion God can’t handle, and there is no hurt beyond His healing. It’s only by sharing our feelings with God that we can step into a healthy emotional life. There our soul holds hands with our spirit and walks toward the kind of whole-person growth that brings God glory.